Encouraging an elderly parent or loved one to undertake estate planning is a sensitive topic. Many of our clients have described feeling awkward or believing that their motives were in question. Yet learning about our loved ones’ legal and financial affairs can help prevent serious problems later.

 

Think about the issues you want to discuss in advance. Express your concern in ways that demonstrate your respect. The important topics to include are: the existence of a valid Last Will and Testament that expresses their current wishes; whether they have established a valid and enforceable Power of Attorney, legally appointing another to manage financial affairs, and a Health Care Proxy, designating a decision-maker for health and medical decisions if one becomes incapacitated; whether they have a current listing of assets and valuables – and where these documents might be found.

 

There are many ways to start the discussion. Sometimes it helps to use a story to make a point. Others ask for advice, like this: “I’m putting my Will together, how did you do this?” Some people respond more favorably to a direct and factual discussion. The important message to convey is that none of us knows what the future will hold. While the individual is capable of participating in the planning, solutions are available that will permit them to exercise choice and preserve their control, dignity and independence. Perhaps this article can be used to open the discussion.

 

Your first attempt may not be successful. Step back and approach the subject at a later date in another way. Major issues are seldom resolved with a single suggestion. Contact one of our experienced estate planning attorneys on Long Island today for further assistance.